Turn Your Suffering Inside Out!….and Have a Mental Health Healing
Yesterday, I had a good ol’ fashioned battle with myself. So, I decided to give myself a little mental surgery.
It wasn’t exactly a knock down – drag out brawl. It was a slow and steady fight with consistent jabs and uppercuts….nothing very exciting or dramatic. However, suffering is suffering and tantrums are tantrums. Tantrums can look like tidal waves of big, reactive emotions, or they can be felt silently as trickles of irritation. Either way, inner balance is disrupted and the ability to “play big” seems to disappear.
I’ve come to understand what “playing big” actually means. It doesn’t necessarily mean doing anything grand or exciting. It simply means relaxing into a state of acceptance and appreciation in the moment.
So, the better part of the day I found myself “playing small” cuz I was arguing with reality. The mental anguish I caused myself by not accepting reality forced me to perform some mental health healing whoop-ass on myself. It’s a funny thing when we become conscious observers of our slightly schizophrenic and confused minds.
Even though I saw what was happening, I indulged the madness, as if it were an old friend I was reminiscing with. I even found myself chuckling out loud in the midst of complaining to my co-pilot, Jeff. We busted out some hearty laughs as we poked fun at my wacky & whiny behavior. I asked myself, “what’s wrong with me?” and I asked Jeff, “what’s wrong with me?” We realized that the only thing “wrong” with me is that I was making myself wrong.
You see, my mind had all of these ideas of how the day should go. I had a list running of things I wanted to accomplish. My body, on the other hand, did not feel up to the tasks. It was telling me to lie down and rest. I was feeling physical sensations that were uncomfortable and I didn’t like it. My mind began to rebel and I began mentally arguing with the reality of what was happening. I argued with the wisdom my body was sharing. I’ve learned that my body holds the wisdom and always knows what it needs to be doing if I tune in. When I override its messages disharmony sets in.
5 Steps to Your Mental Health Healing:
- Get very still, close your eyes and count your breath to 10
- Identify your stressful thought (the feeling….anger, sadness, irritability….often comes first, BUT there is always a stressful thought rolling around that’s causing the feeling).
- Smile…..soften, surrender and love the disturbed thought (there are no new stressful thoughts ~ we all tap into the collective stress and confusion ~ we can’t control the thoughts….they simply happen)
- Question the validity, or truth, of that thought and imagine who you would be & how you would feel without that thought. As yourself, “Is it really true?” and “Who would I be without this thought right now?”
- Get very still, close your eyes and feel the essence of who you are without your confused mind telling you a “story.” Feel the peace that permeates your being. You ARE peace!
* The steps above are a loose interpretation of the work of Byron Katie. The work involves a process of inquiry that, if diligently applied, can set the mind free.
Repeat these steps as often as necessary until you return to your natural state of well-being.
Phew, when I finally threw up the white flag, my serenity was restored. Although I was feeling under the weather, the joy and vitality pulsing through my body was palpable. My energy field was once again radiating love. As I arrived at a place of loving what is, I realized that is the only place where I find true freedom.
Later that evening, Jeff walked into the bedroom where I lay peacefully and he said, “wow, you really turned this day around!” I immediately nodded and smiled, feeling a sense of satisfaction. Yet, as soon as I felt myself taking ownership of ‘turning the day around’, I realized that I had done no such thing. I had simply given myself a little mental surgery by turning my thoughts around. I don’t have the power to turn a day around.
The day happens with or without my sanity…..with or without my permission. The “day” (life) is always neutral and supportive. I simply turned myself around and became available to the grace that the day was offering.
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