Find Your Purpose ~ True Soul Satisfaction
I was chatting with a dear friend the other day in her garden after a drum circle and she said something that inspired contemplation. She’s had a successful gardening business for umpteen years and is about to sell her business and her house. At age 58, she’s considering moving to Mexico or South America and creating a whole new life. Curiosity, fears and concerns are all flooding her mind as she imagines her future. She looked at me with intensity through her dark chocolaty eyes and said, “I’m sure I’ll find another purpose when I give all this up.” It was said with conviction, curiosity and apprehension all sprinkled together.
What does it mean to find your “purpose?”
I bet if you asked 10 people, you would get 10 different answers. Yet, it seems to be a common theme of concern for most people I know. Most of us feel a desire to be “needed” in some capacity by others in our lives or the world in general. Finding ways to contribute, impact and create can give us a temporary sense of “purpose.” I’ve observed, however, that the search for finding a purpose has us missing the point. In the seeking, we become derailed from our true purpose. The purpose of being fully awake to acceptance and joy in this moment. A purpose that we “find” outside of ourselves will never result in sustained satisfaction.
Eckhart Tolle so eloquently says, “Most people treat the present moment as if it were an obstacle that they need to overcome. Since the present moment is Life itself, it is an insane way to live.
- Stop looking forward to something “better” or some moment you believe will bring more fulfillment than now. Be fully conscious in this very moment.
- Cultivate a sense of appreciation and wonder doing a small task. Life is made up of doing small tasks one moment at a time, isn’t it? Take one task that you usually begrudge (like folding laundry) and bring your full attention to it (do it slowly with no distractions like t.v or music). Find a specific reason to be grateful for performing this task. Enjoy it!
- Practice smiling especially when you don’t feel like it. Practice loving-kindness toward yourself and others whenever possible. Your true purpose is to cultivate a kind and open heart. This will bring you lasting fulfillment.
You will never grow tired of your true purpose or feel the need to find a new one. Your true purpose will never feel unfulfilling or disappointing. Your feelings of dissatisfaction are you believing a concept or a thought in your head that you would be happier doing something other than what you are doing right now. And those thoughts are keeping you from being fully present and content right now.
Sound radical? It is! We are conditioned to believe our thoughts and we create a whole “reality” in our minds based on those thoughts.
Free your mind. Free yourself.
What if your purpose is to do bring your whole being into whatever you’re doing in every moment?
What if cultivating acceptance, enthusiasm and a sense of wonder in everything you do is your purpose?
When you find yourself taking a nap….that’s your purpose.
When you’re washing your dinner plate….that’s your purpose. When you’re picking out a peach at the grocery store…that’s your purpose. When you’re writing an email to a client…. that’s your purpose. My purpose right now is to type these words that are forming this article. I’m feeling thirsty and my body is about to get up and pour itself a glass of water. When I do that….that will be my purpose.
Close your eyes and contemplate what life is for a few moments. Isn’t it only what you believe it to be? If you believe you are lacking some grand purpose, I would propose that you just might be missing the point. As a result of believing that you don’t have a purpose, you’re most likely missing the opportunity to feel joy and satisfaction right now.
Let satisfaction and joy be the theme of your soul.
I guarantee your soul will have finally found it’s true purpose!