How Patience & Understanding Will Help You Find Your Inner Truth
We live in a fast-moving, impulsive culture! Do you ever feel pressured to make a quick decision? I do!
When the car salesman says, “I’ll make you a great deal, but I’ll need you to make your decision today!” it can be hard to resist. We can get so caught up in the whirlwind of pressure to make a decision fast, that we don’t even check in with ourselves.
In a previous article, I discuss how 50% of us are emotionally defined and the other half are emotionally undefined. This means that if you are a part of the population who is emotionally defined, you will always find your inner truth by patiently riding the wave of your emotions.
What does this mean?
Well, it means that this is the place that will guide you to make the correct decisions for yourself. When I look at a human design chart and see that the emotional center (solar plexus) is colored in (defined), I know that this is a person that constantly cycles through a wave-like experience with their emotions. They move from high to low….hope to pain…. and back again. Every emotionally defined person has a distinct wave pattern that is unique to them.
How does this work?
You might be wondering, how can someone who is ‘all over the place’ emotionally, trust that this is where they’ll find their inner truth? The most important thing to understand is that they can never trust their feelings in the moment! This is why it is crucial to never make spontaneous decisions. It is always vital to wait through the emotional wave and gain clarity over time. This means taking the time to “sleep on things.” When the emotional wave moves through its natural cycle and into a place of neutrality, only then can sound decisions be made.
For example, let’s say someone approaches you to invest in a business opportunity, and on this day you happen to be in a fantastic mood. You’re high on your wave and your impulse is to say “yes” to everything. You feel that this is going to change your life and you commit right on the spot! As time passes, you discover that this was a really poor decision and you end up losing your hard-earned savings. Had you waited through your wave and into a place of neutrality, you would have noticed that this opportunity wasn’t right for you.
Conversely, another friend asks you to invest in his father’s llama farm in Ecuador. You’ve been feeling pretty low lately and nothing feels very inspiring. You immediately say “no” to your buddy and off he goes asking another friend for an investment. A few days later, after you hit a place of clarity, the feeling that you were supposed to say “yes” to that llama farm overwhelms you. You call your buddy up but the opportunity was given to someone else. Had you informed your friend that you needed to sleep on the decision, requesting that he wait until you were clear, you may have gotten the chance of a lifetime!
The 3 most important tips for the Emotionally Defined:
- WAIT ~ ALWAYS wait before making a decision (there is no truth in the now!) Start educating your friends and family about your healthy “waiting” process.
- WAIT ~ DO NOT weigh the pros and cons in your head! This is not about making a decision from your mind. Simply take note of whether it “feels” right over time and gather a dominant consensus of “yes” or “no”.
- WAIT ~ Only after you’ve reached a place of neutrality and clarity in your emotional wave (which could take 2 days, a week or a month) will you find your inner truth!
You will especially know if something is right for you, if you turn it away a few times and it comes back to you with even sweeter rewards.
Your mantra: “What is good for you, will wait for you.”
It is never helpful to make a decision in the now. (unless you’re emotionally undefined)
It’s important to remember that your emotional wave is impersonal. It is simply a biological function that occurs despite your circumstances. It will be tempting to find a reason for your elation or your dullness, yet it will bring you much peace if you can relax into the fact that it “just is.”
Don’t try to fix your “low” feelings. Embrace them just as you do your elevated moods. They are working through you as a creative and transformative force that you may never consciously comprehend. They are an important part of your evolutionary process and denying them will interrupt your growth. They are also an imperative part of your decision-making process.
When you’re down on your wave, give yourself over to the melancholy….use the feelings to fuel your creativity or indulge in sad music, bubble baths and long naps.
Understand that these feelings are serving a greater purpose and allow them to naturally move through you…..they always will! They are impermanent, as all things are :).
Find out if YOU are emotionally defined by filling out this form. I will email you the results along with the answers to any questions you might have within one business day!
pssst: The emotionally undefined person will never know what this feels like as they are designed to make decisions in the moment. Waiting can actually disrupt and derail their decision-making process. Find out how the emotionally open person operates with success in my upcoming article.
If you’re in the mood ;)…I would love to hear from you in the comments below. How did you make a big decision in your life that either resulted in success, or took a nose dive?
Thanks for Enlightening Up with me today.
In love & gratitude for my emotional wave,